Lynn's Literature: October 2007

Sunday, October 21, 2007

I'm 4 today!

Stephanie is 4 today! It's amazing how the time has flown. We had a great party yesterday, with several friends around and everyone had a really good time. Stephanie got lots of presents including a new bike with training wheels, a Doctors Crash Cart Kit and puppy and vet kit, My LIttle Pony musical jewellery box, Bratz Angel doll, My Pet Shop Puppy and a gardening set. She was really over the moon.

The photo is of her in the 3legged race with Jack and a couple at the blowing of the candles ceremony. I was so proud of the way she looked when we were all singing happy birthday as last year she went all coy and hid behind her hands and started to get really embarrassed, but not yesterday, she was a gorgeous charming little lady preening in all the attention of her special day.

{sigh} They grow up too quickly.

Monday, October 15, 2007

Life as usual

Today I had an appointment with a big counselling agency and spoke with their Regional Manager for my area and their newly appointed Abuse Initiative co-ordinator. The purpose of the meeting was to help them highlight where their counselling services can be better in regards to couples who's relationship is abusive, in particular to help the abused (usually the woman) have counselling that is safe, and also how to deal with the abusers mindset in intimate relationships. The community in general believe it's an anger control problem, or the abused somehow did something to aggravate the verbal or physical abuse, but this is not true and I think that my meeting with the nationwide agency can put into practice some of the things we talked about. It was very empowering to do that.

The University admissions people also rang me today about my submission to SATAC for more information. I have my fingers crossed that I will be accepted into University next year to do Social Work and Social Planning, a double degree which is 4 years full-time. I'll find out in January if I'm successful.

A parcel from Tarisota collections arrived today, but I've not opened it yet, and I've just placed an order with Cyber Scraps for the Fancy Pants True and Botanicals paper and rub-on ranges. It's the first time I've bought new supplies for eons! Been trying to use up my current supplies.

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Stephanie in her new winter school uniform. A Different Child by Pandora MacMillian. People notice there's a special glow around you. You grow, surrounded by love, never doubting you are wanted; Only look at the pride and joy in your mother's eyes. And if sometimes between the smiles there's a trace of tears, one day you'll understand. You'll understand there was once another child, a different child who was in their hopes and dreams. That child will never outgrow the baby clothes. That child will never keep them up at night. In fact, that child will never be any trouble at all. Except sometimes, in a silent moment, when mother and father miss so much that different child. May hope and love wrap you warmly and may you learn the lesson forever how infinately precious, how infinately fragile is this life on earth. One day, as a young woman you may see another mother's tears, another father's silent grief, then you, and you alone will understand and offer the greatest comfort. When all hope seems lost, you will tell them with great compassion, "I know how you feel. I'm only here because my mother tried again."

Quotes that inspire me

'Remembering' is not a steady state, but rather a frequent waking out of forgetfulness. The past stands still, but the present moves and every generation must discover the history of it's parent generation for itself. Anna Haebich
.I myself have never been able to find out precisely what feminism is; I only know that people call me a feminist whenever I express sentiments that differentiate me from a doormat. Rebecca West. 1913.
Abusive behaviour is not a consequent of individual sickness or deviance, but an over-conforming response to dominant ideas regarding, power, privilege and responsibility which are regarded as normal, and which in fact constitute our societal norms and structures. Alan Jenkins
As long as the conditions of the past are the conditions of the present, then the past is not past. Anna Haebich
Failure to appreciate the manifestation of control (over others) means that few in either the community or the legal system know that vilence may continue after separation and also contribute to women's inability to leave. Patricia Easteal
History is typically written by victors who can 'afford to forget', while the losers are unable to accept what happened and are condemned to brood over it, relive it and reflect how it might have been. Anna Haebich
I swore never to be silent whenever and wherever human beings endure suffering and humiliation. We must take sides. Neutrality helps the oppressor, never the victim. Silence encourages the tormentor, never the tormented. Sometimes we must interfere. Elie Wiesel. Holocaust Survivor
If advertising did not influence human action, it would not be an effective means of promoting merchandise. Advertising abounds precisely because of its influence. Television is capable of creating a desire for something and providing direction on how to behave. Sarah Sobieraj
If we were to really take into account the roles of sexual coercion and violence play in shaping human culture and personal identity, fundamental structures of thought could well be shaken and changed. Such great shifts in world view unsettle even those whose privileges and self-images are not directly threatened by them. Olafsen, et al. 1993
It is often suggested that the planet needs saving. But it's not the earth that is in peril. It is us. Dr Iain Stewart. Earth: The Power of the Planet
Many people judge themselves according to the views of others and cannot approve of themselves unless they are approved of by others. Few people challenge the ideologies or belief systems to which they belong. Instead of forming one's identity according to one's personal beliefs, it is far better to define oneself according to the processes by which one formulates beliefs. Richard Paul & Linda Elder
One of the greatest sources of stress is feeling responsible over something that you have no control over. Dr Phil
Talking with someone about their mental illness is not about discovering the truth, it is about realising their experience. Erin Morgan, Lifeline Presenter
The more you understand the nature of men, the more you'd wonder: Why do such sensible, responsible and lovely creatures like women wouldl ike to be anywhere near them? Stephen King
The presence of so many pedophilic-like individuals in relatively high-functioning 'normal' samples supports the notion that the sexualisation of children is at least partially a social phenomenon. John N Briere
The view that women are emotional and men stoic conveniently omits the emotion of anger, which, although little different in the two sexes in terms of arousal, leads to far more damaging consequences when experienced by men. John Archer, Barbara Lloyd
They don't want to hear the truth because the truth is so much harder to understand and so much longer than a lie. 12 year old female sexual assault victim
Through the education of men into male entitlement, men have extensive boundaries that engulf others, subsuming them, especially females who are experienced as extensions of the man. Carol J Adams
Throughout history it has been the inaction of those who could have acted; the indifference of those who should have known better; the silence of the voice of justice when it mattered most that has made it possible for evil to triumph. Haile Selassie I
When people show you who they are; believe them. Lola99 www.psychforums.com
You can either decide to become a part of the problem or be a part of the solution. Dr Phil

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I'm 4 today!

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